2 ways to keep calm in a chaotic world

2 ways to keep calm in a chaotic world

We live in a fast paced, always on world. With the development of technology we’re all accessible in seconds, all day, everyday. Unless we turn our machines off, we’ll never turn off.

There’s always something to do and never enough time to do it in. Time flies by at warp speed and if we’re not careful and intentional, we can so easily get swept up in the chaos of a constant go-go-go life.

3 ways to overcome the fear of failure

I think on some level all of us fear the unknown. Fear of what is to come, fear of who we will become, and fear that we may never accomplish our goals.

Maybe some struggle with this more than others, but I am here to tell you, that even though I have been able to pick myself up many times after failing miserable, it still terrifies me.

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3 ways to overcome the fear of failure

3 ways to overcome the fear of failure

I think on some level all of us fear the unknown. Fear of what is to come, fear of who we will become, and fear that we may never accomplish our goals.

Maybe some struggle with this more than others, but I am here to tell you, that even though I have been able to pick myself up many times after failing miserable, it still terrifies me.

This is a topic I have been thinking about lately as I have been trying to understand  the specific triggers that hold me back in my own life.

There are times when I don’t even push myself to try because I am so mortified by what the outcome could be. I will admit that, at moments I can be somewhat of a perfectionist, and I won’t even make an attempt because I can’t complete it perfectly.

When it comes to powerlifting, however, the fear of failure almost never crosses my mind, and let me tell you I fail on the regular.

when it comes to powerlifting i realize failure is part of the process

When it comes to succeeding in the acting world or in my personal life, however, I cannot seem to come to terms with the fact that it may not go as I would like.

I think innately this has to do with the fact that it reflects more as who I am as a person. If you are anything like me, I am sure you are so sick of fear of failure keeping you from accomplishing things in this life that you want the most, and this is why I have decided to have this discussion.

3 ways to overcome the fear of failure

1) realize that failure is a stepping stone

If you are an everythingidid.com regular, I’m sure you’ve heard one of our rebels talk about their beliefs on failure at some point. I think it’s safe to say that we would all agree that failure is nothing more than a stepping stone if you let it be.

Now what do I mean by that?

What I mean is through failure you have the option to learn, grow, and make a better decision based on past experiences, or you can choose to give up. That’s the reality.

Sometimes with failure our natural instinct is to give up either because we feel like we are not capable or we don’t want to deal with the pain and embarrassment again. If this is how you feel about failure it is completely understandable. No one likes to feel that way, however, I am here to tell you that never trying again is going to feel much worse.

So the next time you fail look at it as an opportunity to learn, grow, and figure out what you can do better next time.

2) stop comparing yourself and your life to everyone else

I think for me I avoid failure merely because I fear how others will react. Furthermore, I start to measure myself against people that I believe are much more successful and talented than I am.

One thing I had to remind myself recently, however, is that success is measured in so many different ways. With that, just because someone is in a different stage of life than I am does not make me less of a person.

We are always so quick to compare ourselves to another that we so often forget that our own story is so unique and there is not another person in this whole universe like us. What makes what we do special has nothing to do with if we are the best, it has to do with, do we bring our true self to the table?

In my own work as an artist, I get so caught up being the best actor I can be that in many ways I start to sabotage myself because I am not being my true self. What I am learning, however, is that when I am able to truly open myself up and just be me, that is when the work is the most beautiful.

3) stop running from it and change your perspective

I am not here to tell you that I have it all figured out, because the reality is that embracing failure is something I still encounter everyday and it’s something I am trying to learn to deal with.

For me, I run from failure because I look back at my life and see all the mistakes I have made and it makes every fiber of my being scream. I am not just talking about not performing at an audition the way I would have liked to, but rather I am talking about failed relationships, friendships, and putting myself in situations where I caused myself more financial heartache.

Even as I am sharing all of this with you I am seeing my fear of failure for what it is. It is more than fear, it is the inability to let the past go and remain in the present. So maybe that is the first step. Taking ownership for our failures of the past, but then letting the guilt go so it doesn’t consume our present.

I am still a work in progress and truly, I will be for the rest of my life. This life is not about getting to a place where we are perfect because  let’s be real that is just not attainable. The hope, however, is that we consistently grow so that we can be the people that we were meant to be.

I hope that this gave you some encouragement and has provided you with some strength to move forward yourself.

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